When you date someone new, how much do your past relationships influence what you do? Are we more than our past? Or do we let the influence of previous partners’ mistakes deter our relationships?
Gamer Geek and I are great, we’re a couple doing the full Christmas thing, picking out a tree, getting gifts and enjoying all the holiday parties. We’re a couple unless you count what Facebook says. And in this day and age, something that simple can drive a normal person insane. Though in all honesty, I’m less worried about it than I was.
Still, Gamer Geek is a broke college student. Unless when he graduates in a few months he gets a job, he’ll be a broke man. My ex had major major problems with money- it was one of the many reasons we fell apart. With that in mind, it’s hard for me to do anything but cringe when he makes poor financial decisions. All I can think of is my ex and worry that I’m making the same mistake again.
So what to do about the red flags? They’re self placed from our valuable life lessons learned so it seems foolish to ignore them. But at the same time, why punish someone for a mistake they’ve never made.
How much influence is too much?